Sometimes partner's of women planning on breastfeeding worry that they may feel left out or not useful once the baby comes. They also worry that all the work may be left to the mother. This does not need to be the case, there are plenty of opportunities for the non breastfeeding parent to engage in baby care and bonding with their baby while also supporting the breastfeeding parent. Some of the things you can do include:

Does she need more cushions? A blanket? Are her shoulders hunched? Offer a shoulder rub to help her relax.

…with the baby. Make it a bonding and playful routine for you and the baby.

Most babies are happy to sleep on anyone’s chest. Get to grips with babywearing so baby can nap with you and your breastfeeding partner can nap in bed.

Next to breastfeeding there's nothing newborns love more than a cuddle and being in arms. As they come more alert you can play with your baby by singing and talking to them.

Breastfeeding on demand in the early days is busy work. Take on the nappy changing and dressing duties, including during the night.

Weekly. The early post-partum period can be sweaty. Clean sheets will always be appreciated.

Tell her how good she’s doing. Tell her how proud of her you are. If she’s having a wobble, listen, wait until she’s finished and then ask her what she needs.

Your partner may be the one doing it but she needs your support and understanding. That will be much easier if you understand the process, normal newborn behaviours, common difficulties and what supports are available.